A writer for the new york times interviewed a series of people who had survived jumping off the golden gate bridge. Every person she interviewed admitted that about two thirds of the way down, they realized that every seemingly meaningless problem that caused them to jump was fixable.
Every single one.
This quote’s been going around the internet for quite some time and it’s because it’s a sort of cookie-cutter rationalization, a crappy Carlton card dismissal of deep sadness and clinical depression
And it’s obviously because being close to people who suffer this, or maybe even being a person who has managed to come back from that sort of darkness (a filing cabinet I’d put the folder detailing my experiences growing up in), is fucking terrifying! It’s so scary and because it scares us, we try to quantify it in all these weird and nebulous but ultimately harmful ways
People are complicated. Life is complicated. Problems don’t always have a way out. Finding those ways out can be even more difficult. Your desire to let the darkness swallow you whole can’t be quelled by a few inspirational speeches and a reblog or two.
It takes every waking moment. It is hard work. And it can absolutely be worth it. But if you know someone who is making that continuous effort, don’t belittle them by just writing off their issues as something they just don’t have the 20/20 vision to see the way out of because it’s not always that simple and you’re being a shitty friend
Depression is not selfish, as terrifying as any other possibility might be and I’m sorry about that
I have a few questions then for anyone who swallows this quote as truth: What reporter? What article? Which people? Can you provide a link? I’m not going to invalidate the possibility that in that moment of desperation you might actually discover you want to live, but applying that as a generalization across the board without any sources to this quite frankly entirely unscientific article is a very Not Good Thing™